Ohh!! Something’s missing inside you. You’ve overlooked how to love someone else legitimately – how to give and get love uninhibitedly, on the grounds that your last relationship broke you.
I loathe phrasing it that way. It sounds awfully sensational to utilize “broken” in reference to yourself – you’re still a human being, after all – completely equipped for living and cherishing and going ahead with your life. You never call in sick to work. You’re strong . It’s not as you’re Falling apart.
Be that as it may, something within you doesn’t fit a remarkable way it used to. You don’t feel butterflies so effortlessly nowadays. You don’t become powerless at the touch of a hand. Being with other individuals feels void – dreary where it used to blast. Dull where it used to be bright.
You’ve forgotten how to stay up late at night texting someone you’re interested in. How to spend hours getting ready for a date. You can go through the motions of intimacy – you’re still a human being, after all – but you’ve lost the ability to feel emotionally naked or exposed alongside someone new. The part of yourself that you were once able to give away so easily is absent and you just cannot figure out why. You wonder if it’s going to be absent forever.
The emptiness, the flatness, the disenchantment that you’re haunted by right now is a stark indication that your life will be absent of love. Because the spark, the magic, the fire that you’re aching to feel isn’t an organic emotion that you’re searching for.
But the truth is, love comes back. You just aren’t ready for it to, yet.
You’ll be surprised at who it happens with. You’ll be surprised about how it unfolds. You’ll be surprised that love feels nothing like the way you remember it and yet there it is – a new and completely different beast.
The reason love has not showed up for you yet is because you keep plugging the wrong numbers into a worn-out formula that stopped adding up long ago. You are searching for love in all the places you lost it and until you accept that it is not there, you’re going to keep coming up empty-handed. Because here’s the truth about where and when you’ll find love again:
You’ll find love once you’re happy without it.
You’ll find love when your heart and your spirit and your mind are so filled with passion for the world around you that you’re practically bursting at the seams. You’ll find love when your interactions with others are easy and calm and not desperately aching for the end of being cared for and admired. You’ll find love once you’re finally able to give it away, expecting absolutely nothing in return.
You’ll find love once you’re ready to show up to your life with your whole entire heart – every hour of every day.
And until then, it’s okay to take your time. It’s okay to do your healing. It’s okay to be lonely and tired and confused about when love is ever going to find its way back to your life.
Right now you may think that you’re never going to fall in love again. But there was a time when you thought you’d never fall out of it, either.
You were wrong then and you can be wrong again.
Except this time, being wrong is going to be unexpectedly and unequivocally beautiful.
Because here’s the thing about the next time you fall in love – it’s going to take you by surprise. The real stuff always does.