Beyond the concept of soulmates

It’s my growing curiosity to touch and experience mythology that led me to discover an age-old concept that dates back to ancient greek era. In a Symposium, Plato wrote about a theory that, humans initially existed with four arms, four legs, and one head with two faces. Zeus, intimidated by this, split the human body in halves, which led them to spend their lives searching for the other half with the hope of becoming a single entity once again. But in modern concepts, it’s a romantic idea that captivates people with the thought that, there aren’t enough of fish in the sea, but truly, one perfect person out there waiting for us to refer to them as their better half.
Although, I believe, anything outside of ourselves will complete or make us whole is not only misguided, but highly dangerous to our own well-being. Life is just as wise, wild and mysterious as it is frustrating! Our soulmates often appear “out of the blue” when we least expect them to. Our soulmate often isn’t someone we consciously desire, but someone we unconsciously attract and need for our inner growth. There is a highly harmful myth that I hear people saying is that “soul mates will stay with you, no matter what”. Well this creates a lot of unnecessary pain. As a species we find great comfort in the thought of “always and forever” (hence why marriage is so appealing to us). But this isn’t always the case. Sometimes our soulmates stay for a season, and sometimes they stay for a lifetime. Well more than the concept of soulmates, I believe in Kindred spirits and twin flames. I’ve personally exercised this beautiful yet harsh reality of twin flames. I don’t know if that’s what I should call it but it’s more of a similar experience that I could relate while reading about twin flames. Yes, the ones who are our mirrors. Who reflect the disowned parts of ourselves; they are the yins to our yangs, the suns to our moons, and the light to our darkness. They propel us into shadow work, deep self-discovery and the fulfillment of our potential. They could be our greatest dream or our worst nightmare (or both). They will test us, provoke us and love us fiercely, all at once.
Well, beyond the spiritual concepts, exists a more practical concept that binds us to certain people. There are people we accept without thinking. There is a deep and unspoken respect between both of you. You have chemistry of the body. Your instincts have kicked in to feel as if this person is your mate. When you touch this person, your body calms down into a deep peace. You have chemistry of mind. You complete each other’s stories in life. You have chemistry of spirit. Everything flows with smoothness. Without knowing why, you would die for and live for this person. This person inspires you to improve yourself over time. Conversation never gets old between the two of you. You feel no need to control or limit this person. Soulmates don’t limit each other which means this is a judgment-free relationship. A person you can let go of gracefully.
Love keeps visiting us, in different forms, in different shapes, in different colors. It’s far beyond the concept of it’s existence. Time is no measure to define it. Well, metaphorically saying, the extinct species might be a part of history but their importance is still what the world can never deny of.


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